Thursday, August 22, 2013

I'm Not Gay, So Why Do I Care?

Recently, I was asked by my husband, after a fairly impassioned pro-gay rights rant: "You're not gay, so why do you care?" He asked, not in a jerky-judgmental way, but in a I-don't-know-why-you're-so-worked-up kinda way. After all, I'm a heterosexual, middle-age, middle-class, working mom. I live the American tradition. I teach Sunday School. I love Jesus. My life would not change directly one bit if gay marriage ever passes or not. What then is my problem?

Homosexual and Transgender romantic love was not a cultural phenomenon in Biblical times. Same gender sex happened, sure! I'm not talking here about same gender lust... I am taking about romantic committed consensual love... a partnership, a family. Such an institution was not explored not discussed... homosexual activity was just about the sex.

Much research has been done on the sexual immorality during Biblical times. Soldiers would have their sexual drives fulfilled by abusing young boys, or by the use of prostitutes both male and female. This is not homosexual love.

When strangers would come from other lands men would dominate the visitor by taking him against his will. This is not homosexual love. Heterosexual men would choose to have sex with other men simply out of lust and hedonistic desire. Sex to dominate and control. This is not homosexual love.

I have no problem with identifying lust as a sin, however this applied to all... no matter the sexual orientation.  Committed marriage is God's loving solution to the strong desires of the flesh. Sex between same gender individuals is often (due to our current laws) out of wedlock, thus sinful in the eyes of God. 

God created us with the need to love as well as He created us to find comfort and blessing in our beloved's arms. THIS IS HOW HE CREATED US. To deny a same-sex couple to marry  is to deny them the blessings of God. How can this be love?

All it takes to learn what homosexual love is us to listen to your gay brother or lesbian sister. You can be a part of their lives and hear their heartaches. Listen to their hearts... listen to their stories.  You don't even have to get of your couch! 

Read UNFAIR from cover to cover. A book written by a heterosexual married male that shares my calling to spread God's Love. In this book there are stories of real people, with real heartaches, and a God that wants to comfort them through US... not because of us! 

Homosexuals aren't deviant sex addicts. Homosexuality isn't just about hedonistic sex with someone who's the same gender... anymore than heterosexuality is about strippers or one-night stands with someone of the opposite gender. C'mon guys! Get your head out of the gutter! It's about L-O-V-E.

What if homosexuals feel the EXACT same way about their beloved as you do with yours? What if loving the opposite gender was wrong? How would you handle the shame? The loneliness? The societal rejection? How would you cope with the church's judgement? How would YOUR heart ache?

No matter how advanced your imagination it would be difficult to truly understand the pain and separation that the homosexuals feel unless you truly have walked in his or her shoes. At the end of the day we can go home to our beloved and know that our love will be treated  with honor and respect. 

Within a hetero-marriage we can legally be married with all the special rights, benefits and privileges this social contract provides. We can feel smug that when we have our physical and sexual needs met that we are blessed by God and not judged by others. We can feel accepted and whole.

As a heterosexual have never been judged by others for my love or choice to have a family! My 16+
years of marriage is celebrated and revered by society and my church as an accomplishment and spiritual victory over flesh... not as a defeat! 

I'm not gay... so why DO I care? I care because I am called to love my neighbor as myself! I care because the LGBT community is filled with people who are feeling and experiencing anything but love. Not only are we, as Christians, not loving them; we are judging them out of our own fears and misconceptions. We are using God's Word as we understand it to hurt those very outcasts we are called to love! I care because I love.

❤Not Just A Blonde

Colossians 3:12-14 ~ Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.


    I also am heterosexual. I agree with LGBT's right to marry, be recognized and respected.
    I care because, what if one of my four beautiful children ended up (because I do not feel it is a choice) being gay? I refuse to be part of something that would ostracize them. My God LOVES ALL! Does being gay make any of my children less beautiful? NO!
    I believe in reincarnation, and this is not my first, nor will it be my last go-around on this Earth. If my husband (soul-mate) and I meet again we should be able to love one another regardless of which vessel God gifts us with. Maybe we all need to try to learn the lessons our Lord has to teaches us and I believe that among those lessons is to learn acceptance, compassion and most of all UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
    Please join us in attempting to get closer to God's Goals for us.

    1. Thank you for your heart felt comment! I am convinced that we are going to see love win in the issue within our lifetime... if I have to write, blog, speak and FB about it... then I am blessed to be used by GOd for His greater Purpose! ;o)

  2. I am completely in love with this post. Just thought I'd let you know :)

  3. Thanks Megan! Please share if you meet anyone who is on the fence on this issue or who is hurting and needs to know not everyone condemns. I am SO happy happy you let me know you agree... makes my heart smile! (BIG HUG)